Hate those long awkward silences? Having a few of these questions memorized should keep the conversation moving. Bonus: many of these questions work well on any first meeting with a stranger from co-workers to friends of friends.
Remember listening is more powerful than talking. We are a culture starving to be heard. Keep asking interesting questions, don’t say much about yourself, and a person will walk away thinking you’re the best conversationalist they know. The key is to be present for that person. Don’t be checking your phone, scanning around the room for hotter dates, or thinking about yourself. Think only of listening to your date and enjoying their company.
- Where did you grow up?
- Where did you go to college?
- What did you major in for school? What do you wish you had majored in?
- Where was your favorite place you’ve lived?
- What did you want to be when you were a kid?
- Do you have any siblings?
- Where do your parents live?
- What do your parents do?
- Who has been the biggest influence in your life?
- Did you have a nickname? How did you get it?
- How did you lose your virginity? (Only if they brought up sex first.)
These are a Few of My Favorite Things
- What’s your favorite band?
- Who’s your favorite author?
- What’s your favorite movie?
- What’s your favorite TV show?
- What’s the best part about your job/school/hobby?
- What’s your favorite vacation spot?
What You Do Matters More Than What You Say
- What do you like to do on the weekends?
- What’s your favorite hobby?
- What’s the biggest life goal that you have accomplished? What’s the next goal you’re working on?
A Minor in Philosophy
- If the world was ending next week, what would you do tomorrow?
- What do you think you’ll regret most on your deathbed?
- What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever done?
Dreams and Aspirations
- If you didn’t have to work, how would you spend your time?
- If you could live anywhere, were would you go?
- What’s the next thing you want to learn how to do?
- If you had a million dollars right now, what would you do with it?
Topics To Avoid
Many of these are obvious but just in case, try to avoid these on the first date.
- Past partners
- Sob stories & drama
- Dogma & religion
- Opportunities for heavy conflict or complaining
- Overtly sexual topics
- Drug and alcohol abuse
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