Unique Online Dating First Message Tactics

Unique Online Dating First Message Tactics

You know why Nigerian scammers leave typos in their emails? People who notice typos are also smart enough to know that dethroned royalty do not need their help to get cash out of the country. Your first message can attract the right matches by being as unique as you are. You’ll attract better matches by […]

30 First Date Questions To Ask

30 First Date Questions To Ask

Hate those long awkward silences? Having a few of these questions memorized should keep the conversation moving. Bonus: many of these questions work well on any first meeting with a stranger from co-workers to friends of friends. Remember listening is more powerful than talking. We are a culture starving to be heard. Keep asking interesting […]

7 Worst Online Dating Messages Ever

7 Worst Online Dating Messages Ever

A short selection of the worst messages I’ve gotten over the last year. (If you’re curious why women get burned out on OkCupid, getting a few of these a week wears on you.) Innocent Question = Lamest Way To Tell A Girl You’ve Got A Big Cock (ever) Awesome Grammar and Even Worse Content U […]

Try Messaging Women Older Than You

Try Messaging Women Older Than You

The average 30-year-old male will spend the same amount of time messaging teenagers as women his own age.

Don’t Sext Until You’ve Sex’d

Don’t Sext Until You’ve Sex’d

Getting Dirty Digitally Raises the Stakes It’s critical you don’t build up too many expectations before meeting in person. When you interact digitally, the majority of who you are is a blank canvas. Each person will paint in the missing portions to match their best guess and their ideal relationship. The longer you chat online, […]

7 Reasons Your Messages Never Get A Reply

7 Reasons Your Messages Never Get A Reply

Your first message is about starting a conversation, it isn’t about convincing them to sleep with you in four sentences. Avoid the mistakes below and give them something to start talking to you about.

How to Banish Your Ex from Your Digital Life

How to Banish Your Ex from Your Digital Life

You used to shove all the pictures of your Ex into a shoebox and burn them ceremoniously. Now you can’t get Facebook to stop recommending you two should be friends because you have so many mutual friends. Breaking up is harder to do in the digital age. Calls and Texts I was disappointed to find […]

What Age Range Can You Date?

What Age Range Can You Date?

According to XKCD, the age range of people you can date expands as your grow older. The number of online daters peaks at 24 (according to OkCupid) but desirable matches expand. The average 22 year-old women looks to date someone 22 to 25 (a 3 year age gap). However, the average 36 year-old women actively […]

Racism is Alive And Well in Online Dating

Racism is Alive And Well in Online Dating

If you’re not a white guy, How Your Race Affects The Messages You Get is one of OkCupid’s most important blog posts. Take a glance at the female reply rates for messages sent by guys of different races. Rates in red are below average and rates in green are above average. Then read the complete […]

Online Dating Profiles Part 2: Usernames

Online Dating Profiles Part 2: Usernames

Your username is more important than you might think. Caution! Once you chose a username, some sites won’t let you change it. Make the choice carefully or be ready to make a new profile. Avoid Adding your birth year to the end (John-1982). Anything complimenting yourself: Sexy, bold, amazing, awesome, etc. Cheesy sexual references and […]